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It's Not To Late To Be The Spiritual Leader In Your Home
by
Angie Lewis
What happens in a home when the husband leads the household with the
spiritual authority God gave him? How can a man become the spiritual
leader in his home? What are the responsibilities of a spiritual
leader?
Some husband's might feel that it's too late to be
the spiritual leader of the home, maybe they already got a divorce,
or maybe their children have already rebelled and are going their
own way. But in all truth, it is never too late to begin accepting
the roles and responsibilities that were god-given and god-breathed
for you!
Some men may feel they can't lead the home properly
because they don't read the bible enough, or they think they are too
passive and introverted to lead the household like it should be lead so
they have the wife become the leader, bread winner, and major
disciplinary of the children. This is a bit backwards. Um, I wonder if
this has anything to do with the high rate of divorce and unhappy
marriages floating around in this country.
If husbands aren't doing their jobs, then I guess I
understand why the wife feels she needs to take over. Someone's got to
do it, right? But this is not what God meant for marriage at all! God
recommends that every home be lead by the spiritual influence of the
husband. There are very good reasons for this, and I think you already
know why. So then, what’s the problem, folks?
Responsibilities of a spiritual leader:
1. Loving God (Christ) with all your heart, mind and
soul. You will not be able to lead your home properly if you do not
submit to God's will for you.
2. Bringing God's truth and wisdom into the home.
3. Making major decisions for the home, but not before discussing your
decision with your wife, unless for some reason she is unable to
interact with you and the decision needs to be made immediately.
4. Discussing all minor decisions with the wife, and coming to a
spiritually based conclusion, even if the wife has to compromise with
her husband.
5. Submitting your undying devotion to your wife, meaning you are
willing to die for her if you have to. Besides God, your wife is the
most cherished and loved person in your life. Love her with the wisdom
God has given you, and she will understand how to submit to your
authority. She really will. It is a natural loving process that any
spiritual minded woman will see.
6. Protecting wife and children from all physical, mental, and emotional
danger.
7. Disciplining the children in the ways of the Lord, and not in the
ways of the world. Wife can do minor disciplinary if it is what both
husband and wife have agreed upon already. Dad protects his children
from outside negative influences doing whatever it takes to keep
children safe, secure, educated and loved properly.
8. It is the responsibility of the husband to be the major breadwinner
in the home. There are several reasons for this. For one, being the
financial supporter of the home makes the man of the house feel good
about who he is as the leader. It is his job and responsibility as the
man to support his family financially the best he can, if at all
possible. Children really need their mother at home with them. Children
need that bond, stability, nourishment and love from their mother.
The main focus here is to believe in yourself! Have
faith that this is what your true responsibility as husband and father
are. You must try and do the best you can and continually pray that God
give you the wisdom and instruction for your duties every single day!
A spiritual leader needs to place God FIRST in his
life, above all others, even wife and children. The man who submits to
God recognizes wisdom for his life and marriage, and will do whatever it
takes to keep it together.
Here are the five major objectives of becoming a good
spiritual leader.
1. Bible study: at least 2 times a week. Don't be intimidated by the
words, "bible study". Just read the bible and you will be studying it.
God knows your heart and He will give you the answers you need.
2. Start disciplining, protecting children and wife properly – Values
and morals need to be assessed on everyone in the home. Have family
discussions about new responsibilities, tasks, and roles that they will
partake in.
3. Proper decision-making – Discernment about functions, friends,
relations, issues in the home. Ask for the wisdom to discern what is
right for your family.
4. Be a good example to self, wife, children, and above all God.
5. Make all needed changes in the home that will benefit everyone
involved. Be team players working together instead of each family member
going their separate ways.
How can a man become the spiritual leader in his home?
1. Get organized and focused on your objectives. Know what you're going
to say to the family before you say it.
2. Get family all together and explain your intentions, making sure
everyone understands the new structure in the home, whatever you have
decided upon.
3. Have a twice a week bible study and counseling with the whole family.
4. Stand firm to God's word by placing wife, children, marriage, and
self under the foundations of Jesus Christ. This is a calling for all
men, but many have just not seen it that way.
5. Keep studying, learning, growing, and gaining more and more spiritual
insight for you and your family to grow on. Always stay faithful.
You can do this! Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You have the
potential to feel good about yourself, and have a great family and
marriage. It is up to you and how much effort you are willing to put
into it, that's all. Be all that God wants you to be and you will have
the wisdom you were meant to have.
At first you wife may rebel. She is used to having things her way. But
whose error is that? The way things are going between husband and wife
these days it is not just the fault of the woman who feels she needs to
be the man in high heels, but the weakness of the man who hasn't yet
recognized his god-given role in life! Love your wife with the wisdom
God has given you and she will submit to your love for her.
About the Author:
Angie Lewis is the author of two marriage books.
"Journey on the Roads Less Traveled", a book about love, life, addiction, and marriage.
"Love The Man Your Married. This book tackles areas in marriage that couples need to know and
understand and apply for a successful marriage. This book is a most reliable resource for married
couples, from infidelity issues to complete forgiveness.
For more information on these books visit Angie's website and signup for the free monthly newsletter
while you're there!
http://www.heavenministries.com
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