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Marriage Healing Begins With Attitude and Beliefs
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by Angie Lewis
Sometimes we have to do what is right rather than what
feels good. If we only do what feels good and what we want, we’re not
going to be very popular with others, especially the person we married.
This kind of marriage will be heading straight for divorce court, won't
it? Some of the wrong attitudes we have, and how they can lead us to
sinfulness is carried out in our actions, which can cause problems in
our relationships.
Wrong thinking and negative feelings plague many couples today. But they
can change this negative thinking pattern by becoming mentally and
spiritually healthy through God's message of love. I have never yet
heard of anyone becoming healed spiritually, mentally and emotionally
that didn’t seek out God's message. Some things we cannot achieve on our
own. People think they have the will power to stop sin on their own,
without the power of God's will for their lives, but this just isn't so.
If it were, why is there so much sin in the world?
We need God! And we need God's Love. Face it, we are powerless to grasp
the concept of God's plan for our lives, or to become all that we were
meant to be without the source of the Master Designer in our lives. We
can say we believe but without actually acting on those beliefs it means
nothing.
Through our own efforts and willingness to seek out what's right for our
marriage, we will find that it is a much better way to live, and also
where we will find peace and happiness. The greatest part about it is we
feel better about who we are as people by choosing what is right, and
when all is said and done, we end up feeling good when we do choose what
is right rather than what feels good.
So what is right? What's right is most likely what we don't want to do,
but yet we do it anyway because our conscience steers us in that
direction. What is right may not feel good to the newbie who is fresh in
the Lord, but eventually doing what is right becomes a habit of nature,
and this is how you know that you have won over the destructive and
negative imbalances in your life.
Does this mean you will never have a negative day, or use destructive
emotions? No way! It only means that now you know how to apply the
resources available that before were hidden. Meaning, if we keep God's
word hidden, it remains out of our mind. Out of sight out of mind. What
is not in our heart, we do not apply into our life's circumstances and
issues.
Many couples carry around wrong attitudes about each other in marriage
and they don't even know it. Negative emotions, drunkenness, addictions,
sexual sins, immoral behavior, self-righteousness, and selfishness all
stem from a destructive attitude. None of these things are right and all
of them carry the feel good attitude about them. The thing is, we have
choices. We can continue abusing these destructive things in our
marriage and life or we can choose to do what is right.
Destructive attitudes breed destructive actions. Our attitude becomes
destructive when we don't allow Gods goodness to permeate our heart and
mind. Instead we have made it a habit to live in the damaging influence
of our negative emotions. I encourage you, if you have not yet done so,
to turn your negative attitude into a positive one through God's message
of love. Once you grasp at the concept of God's love for you that is
when your mind begins to heal itself and your negative attitude
transforms into a loving, positive one. This is what heals marriage. You
must heal yourself first, before marriage can be restored.
Without the Spirit of Christ's magnificent plan in our life we seem to
wallow in the negativity in life, and bury the positive with the word of
God. I know this first hand, because I have lived in the destruction of
my negative and rebellious attitude, and it is not good. It was only
when I accepted God (Love) for my life that I was able to forgive myself
and start living my life in a productive way rather than in a
destructive way.
If we remain cloudy in our minds, living within our destructive
emotions, we do not even know the beauty of anything else. We divorce,
remarry, divorce, remarry, become addicted, hate ourselves, hate others,
become sexually promiscuous, and live our life in all the splendor of
immorality because of never knowing the beauty of another way of living.
What kind of a life is that?
God is love! Love is everything wonderful and beautiful. It is that
straightforward. The difficult task for most people is once they have
that love, they don't know how to maintain it. God's word needs
maintenance. You have to water and feed it daily. You have to weed it
several times a day, and once a week you need to prune the dead
branches. You have to act on your beliefs!
Guess what? Most people don't do the maintenance, and they are unable to
preserve God's love and direction for them, especially under trials and
tribulations. It gets snatched away from them because it is weighed down
by destructive attitude and negative emotions.
Through the reading of God's message and living the good life that was
meant for you to live by, the spiritual mind overcomes destructive
attitudes to such a degree, that righteousness finds itself playing tug
of war with destruction and eventually destruction finds itself in the
mud.
I encourage you to seek the light and the truth of God for your life,
and pay attention to His message of love. Water that love and
self-healing will begin to take place and God's Love will shine through
in the person you are. You will have grown into a beautiful and loving
person filled with patience, hope, acceptance, and understanding for the
person you married, and for all others in your life.
Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God,
keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love
him and keep his commands. Deuteronomy 7:9
Articles may be
reprinted in full by citing the author and web page.
Copyright © 2006 Heaven Ministries - Angie Lewis
http://www.heavenministries.com
About the Author:
Angie Lewis writes on subjects such as love, sex, and intimacy between
couples. Her books center on the biblical foundations that God outlines
for couples to follow for an exceptional marriage. Angie writes numerous
articles and e-books covering such issues as adultery, addictions,
temptation, and forgiveness in marriage. See website for more
information about Angie's books or online marriage ministry.
http://www.heavenministries.com
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