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Marriage is Like a Business
by
Angie Lewis
A good business owner regards his employee's with
respect and consideration, and because of that, his employee's treat him
back with respect, and sometimes do more then is expected of them. This
makes for a good business. In the same way, when we regard our spouse
with consideration and respect, we get more from them, sometimes even
more than we expected! Isn't that great?
A well-run business is like a well-run marriage;
they both involve the players letting down their pride. Pride is the
major cause of marital problems and divorce. Pride is a strong emotion
that prevents couples from coming out of their selfishness and
submitting to one another, even though couples are capable of giving so
much more of themselves to each other.
Pride is the major cause of business failure because
prides prevents the business owner from coming out of his arrogance and
submit to his employee's properly. Both marriage and business involve
team players if they are to succeed.
Pride is a cumulative mix of feelings that come out
in the way we behave and act with others, and is not always noticeable
to the casual observer. A business owner who is proud and arrogant
typically will have unhappy employees, and usually will have a pretty
fast employee turn around rate. Basically, he doesn't make a very good
boss, and no one wants to work for him.
In the same way selfish and arrogant people don't
make very good marriage partners. No one wants to stay married to him or
her.
Let's look at some ways in which pride might stand
in the way of a marriage and business from being successful.
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Both husband and wife must be willing to work at the
marriage.
Pride prevents couples from working at the marriage because they
don't want to cooperate with one another. Marriage is like a
business. In business if there is no cooperation, or willingness to
make the business better, the business is going to go out of
business!
Basically, pride stands in the way of the players in marriage from
negotiating and compromising with each other. Both marriage and
business rely on the common ground of negotiation for them to be
successful.
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Both husband and wife must be willing to work at
themselves instead of each partner trying to change each other.
Pride prevents couples from seeing their own faults. All they see is
the fault of their spouse, and since pride begets selfishness,
couples remain self-seeking, inconsiderate, and disrespectful with
one another. This is why divorce sounds better and better all the
time.
In the same way what do you think is going to happen if an employer
treats his employee's with disrespect and contempt? They're going to
quit, aren't they? They're going to separate themselves from their
mean employer and get a brand new employer, hopefully one that will
treat them with respect.
Couples quit on each other all the time, that's what divorce is.
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Both husband and wife need to bring God into the
marriage, and attain a more spiritual awareness from within
themselves to work on and bring into the marriage.
If couples are not getting spiritual counsel and wisdom from the
architect of marriage where and who are they getting it from? Why do
couples rely on the trust and counsel of strangers to their marriage
instead of the source of who designed marriage from the beginning?
Pride stands in the way of wanting to trust in God for marriage,
therefore couples continue to operate in the selfish mode of
thinking. The first solution to marital problems coming from a
prideful mind is divorce, which comes from the foundation of the
world, but look where that has gotten marriage.
The lack of commitment from couples these days is absolutely
incredible. Where there is no commitment there can be no marriage.
Husband and wife are to regard one another with care and
consideration because honestly folks, that is what marriage takes to
make it work. There is absolutely no room for pride, arrogance, and
contempt in marriage.
It is the same way for the business owner. What would happen if he
had no commitment to his business? He isn't going to care too much
about it, is he? A business owner who doesn't regard his business
with the care and respect it deserves, isn't going to be in business
for long.
So the bottom line is giving up our pride and submit to one another
properly and appropriately whether we are working on building up our
business or whether we are working on building up our marriage. Both
marriage and business take team players to make them successful.
Sitting down, Jesus called the Twelve and said, "If any one wants to
be first, he must be the very last, and the servant of all." Mark
9:35
Copyright 2006 Angie Lewis ~ Heaven Ministries
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