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The Nuts and Bolts of Marriage
- Do You Qualify?
by
Angie Lewis
So you want to get married and maybe have a family
later on down the road. Do you really know what you are getting yourself
into? Are you ready to share a big part of yourself with your future
spouse for the rest of your life? Marriage isn't about doing what "you"
want. It is about doing what "you both" want.
Are you ready to humble yourself to your spouse when arguments can't
seem to get rectified? Are you ready to commit yourself to your spouse
through the bad times as well as the good? This is what the nuts and
bolts of marriage is all about. No one says marriage was going to be
easy. But if you want to stay married for life then you need to be
committed and convicted to work at what you started.
Don't be a poor sport and quit the game early. All marriages, and in any
condition can be saved with the proper resources. The problem is couples
are using the wrong resources to fix their marriage. They don't
understand the nuts and bolts of marriage.
During the early years of marriage you might see a handsome prince and a
beautiful Cinderella but after going through so many years of behaving
selfish and having unresolved issues pop up, your prince might now seem
like an ugly old frog and your Cinderella may seem to have turned into a
wicked witch. Oh no, now what?
Of course, other people won't see your spouse in the same negative light
as you do. But that's marriage for you. Unhealthy marriages don't ever
see their spouse in the same positive light as they once did. The reason
for this is quite clear. No spirituality to base the marriage upon
because the marriage is based upon self-interest. Are you married to
yourself? Then go right ahead and continue supporting the marriage upon
your ego.
Many marriages of today don't even have a bond to begin with. What seems
like connectivity between two people really is lust filled euphoria of
the newness of each other, and after while, especially where there is no
love, gets humdrum. Marriage needs love to survive.
What does marriage mean to you? Marriage could mean considering the
feelings of another and enjoying the companionship of another. It could
mean playing the give and take game fairly. Marriage means commitment.
1. Are you ready to consider the feelings of another person? You do want
a healthy marriage, don't you? Well… in a healthy marriage, selfishness
is non-existence! In a healthy, growing and satisfied marriage, couples
do not think in the sense of I, me and mine, but rather in the sense of,
we, our, and us. In other words, it is not what "I" want but what "we
both want".
2. Are you and your future marriage partner compatible? Don't think you
can change the person you married. It doesn’t work like that. How it
does work is both wife and husband find the areas in themselves that
need changing and work on those areas of self so they can become better
marriage partners to each other.
3. Are you willing to compromise with your spouse? A healthy marriage
takes a lot of cooperation. There is no room for stubbornness,
self-righteous behavior, rebelliousness, or selfishness in marriage.
Where are the team players? You can be a great team player "if" you play
the game fairly. If you cannot play fair, don’t get married! It's as
simple as that.
4. Are you prepared to totally commit to your spouse and stay married
for life? I know that NOW you say yes to that question but what does
marriage mean to you? Answer that and you will know your answer.
What does your way of life tell you about what's right and good for your
marriage? Are you going to value your marriage with the importance that
it deserves?
Marriage will be the most important commitment and promise you make with
another person. If you think that promise is going to get broken, then
don’t even think about getting married, I don't think you qualify.
About the Author:
Angie Lewis is the author of Journey on the Roads Less
Traveled, a book about love, life and marriage. Angie has written a new
book, Love The Man Your Married. In her book Angie shares and answers
comments and questions from married couples about marriage related
issues that affect couples today.
The book involves all areas in marriage that couples need to know and
understand and apply for a successful marriage. This book is a most
reliable resource for married couples, from infidelity issues to
complete forgiveness. It is my hope that all couples find and begin to
utilize the biblical truths for their marriage by reading and studying
this book.
If you value your relationship with your spouse, and want to read about
positive ways to save your marriage, then this book is a must read! Pick
up a copy today!
For more information on these books visit Angie's
websites
http://www.spiritual.journeybooks.4t.com
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