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What Men Need From Women and What They Don't Want
by
Angie Lewis
1. A man doesn’t like to be rejected sexually. Men have a sexual drive
that when ignored can want him to turn to other means for gratification.
Married women should always be there for their husband’s even when they
don’t feel like it. This is not out of duty or responsibility, but out
of love for the man you married. A man needs a woman to want him.
The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In
the same way the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to
his wife. Don’t deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a
time, so you may devote yourself to prayer. Then come together again so
Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control.
1
Corinthians 7:4-5
2. A man does not want to be dominated by a woman. When a wife takes the
helm and controls situations and state of affairs in the home and
marriage, a husband becomes less likely to want to get involved or do
anything at all. This is why some husband’s just go ahead and let their
wife’s tell them what to do, it is much easier to let her take control
than to constantly argue, fuss, and fight. But this is not right.
Why do you think men complain about taking out the garbage? Think about
it for a minute. It is demeaning, as if that is all he can do. But a
man’s job is to be the spiritual leader, provider, protector, and
authority of the home. We shouldn’t be in such a hurry to undermine our
husband’s position. Give it back to your husband where it belongs. He
needs to take the lead in the home.
A wise and Christ honoring husband will not take advantage of his wife.
And a wise Christ honoring wife will not try and undermine her husband’s
position.
If you do not honor and love Jesus Christ then I suppose this scripture
does not apply to you.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the
head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church, his body, of which
he is the Savior. Now as the Church submits to Christ, so also wives
should submit to their husbands in everything.
Ephesians 4:22-24
3. A man does not want to be belittled, criticized, or treated as a
child. Why would a wife belittle her husband? It goes back to why she
feels the need to control everything in the marriage. Some women think
their husband’s can’t do anything right, or as good as she can do it,
and so treat them with contempt. The problem is, many women want things
done their way and don’t give their husband’s a chance to do anything.
Most men because of being treated in such a fashion end up releasing
their negative emotions and frustrations through outside means. Ladies,
if your husband is cold and distant with you, and you’re not sure why,
it could be the way you are treating him. A man needs to be treated like
a man, and if his manhood is constantly undermined by a nagging and
controlling wife then he isn’t going to stick around and keep taking it.
Let your man feel good about who he is by praising him for his efforts
and accomplishments. A man needs to be admired by his woman, plain and
simple. As his wife you should be looking for ways to make him feel good
about the man he is.
If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be
destroyed by each other. Galatians 5:15
4. A man doesn’t want a woman who can’t cook. One way to a man’s heart
is through his stomach. Men like to eat good tasty food every single
day. As the cook in the home, we wives should also make sure that the
food we do cook is healthful as well. We want our husband’s to enjoy the
meal but we also want him to be full of energy and feeling well
physically. It is our job to take control of what our husband eats and
serve him tasty home cooked healthy meals.
5. A man doesn’t want a woman who clings to him and won’t give him space
and freedom with his friends. We all need and want balance in our life.
One way to get that balance is for husband and wife to have a friend or
hobby to enjoy their time with once in awhile.
Some women feel deprived or jealous when a husband goes out with his
friends. She wants him to spend his spare time with her. If a man has
taken care of his responsibilities in the home and his wife doesn’t need
him for anything, he should be given the freedom to go play golf, hunt
or whatever it is he does. Come on ladies, don’t cling to him like a
puppy dog, men hate that. Let him go have some fun on his own. Believe
me, when he comes home, he will be a happier man.
6. Men don’t like want women who have foul mouths and behave like one of
the guys. Men don’t want to compete with the woman in their life on any
level, especially in the manhood area. A man has usually been with the
guys all day at work, and he needs to come home to a beautiful feminine
wife. Be there for him, ladies, show him what you got in the feminine
department. He’ll be glad he came home! Be lovely, kind, and
affectionate, even if he comes home with a bad attitude. This is where
you can take control of the marriage by giving yourself to your husband.
Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a
gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
1 Peter 3:4
About the Author:
Angie Lewis writes on subjects such as love, sex,
and intimacy between couples. Her marriage books center on the biblical
foundations that God outlines for couples to follow for an exceptional
marriage. Angie writes numerous articles and e-books covering such
issues as adultery, addictions, temptation, and forgiveness in marriage.
Check out Angie’s website for additional information about her books and
online marriage ministry.
http://www.heavenministries.com
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